1. When having sex with a partner is stressful or you don’t like the technique, you need to communicate.

According to a Cosmopolitan survey, 39 percent of the reasons for not feeling organism are due to their current partners. Sung researcher Jiji Engel said, “It’s a case where your partner doesn’t give you enough stimulation you need, you don’t feel safe when you’re together, or you don’t have communication.”

Miranda Christopher, a psychotherapist specializing in sex and relationships, told women who were pressured to feel orgasm by their partners. “If you keep thinking about it, it’s rather disturbing to enjoy it. And it can be harder and harder to feel the orgasm because you think you have to do something.”

Your partner probably wants to ‘confirm’ that you’re really enjoying it. Even if the intention is good, it can still put pressure on it. In addition, a partner’s lack of patience interferes with his orgasm. Most women need time to relax completely and feel orgasm. The more your partner says, ‘Are you there?’ and the better it breaks.”

Communicating with a partner is the key. That is Engel’s advice. “For example, if you’re worried about falling short of your partner’s expectations and you can’t feel the orgasm, you should talk about it.” Christopher’s said, “People are much less likely to have problems and have much more fun when they feel that their partners don’t expect anything from me.”

If the reason you don’t feel orgasm is because of sex techniques or certain methods, talking to a partner helps. You can change the way. Instead of saying it doesn’t work, say you want to try a new way. Let’s not be afraid to make a new proposal first,” Christopher added.